An Ode to Overyย 

A few years ago, on a chilly morning, I sat in a queue at the Verulam licensing department. On my right was my mom and to my left was a guy – attractive but in a way that is unapproachable – and his father next to him. Somehow, we got talking, he was far from being unapproachable. In fact, he let me skip ahead of him. 

This is no love story, granted he is everything a girl would want (athletic; outdoorsy; has nice hands and snakes; is respectful) – but this is simply how I met a person who intrigues me to this day. 

He embodied traits that I wanted to adopt. I wanted to be active, and go on adventures. I wanted to be exciting. 

I found myself doing more and living fully – I had always wanted to surf, but something held me back. Would anything hold him back from something he wanted to do? Nope. If no one wanted to join, he’d do it himself. And slowly, I became even more independent and less afraid to do things on my own. I am now fiercely independent with the confidence to do things on my own.
 
Sometimes, we don’t realize that it’s the people we meet who influence us more than we care to admit, even in the briefest interactions.  

Today, we went for a “walk” – and a walk with him could mean anything from a casual stroll to a full blown hike. I was smart and wore sneakers. 


As you can see… I took photos. 


I found that I’m always connected to my cell phone. He chooses to have nothing on him, he is present in conversations and he experiences everything – even casual walks on the beach. In fact, he takes feeling seriously and ditched his slops. 
For whatever reason I had my cell phone on me, I had a different experience – I worried about getting it wet or falling. I was distracted at times. Luckily for me, I am aware of my flaws, and attaching my phone to me as if it’s another limb is a flaw. I tell myself it’s because I like to capture moments, this is true, but sometimes moments are there to be felt and remembered. 

In 2017, when we take photos and capture moments, is it really for us or is it for others to like and admire / envy our lives? 

When I asked him why he doesn’t post his amazing photos on social media, he simply said that his photos are for himself. 

So, thanks Aidan. Thanks for a unique friendship and lessons. 

Logging off… ๐Ÿ“ด

Love the soul-sucker

We all know a person who is lazy, uninspiring and who sucks the joy out of life. This person is vile, and it wouldn’t be surprising if there is mucus flowing through their veins. 

Who wants to be around that? 

Sometimes, we cannot avoid these types of people. We can cut them out of our inner circles, but we can’t cut them out of our lives completely. Perhaps we go to the same gym, or country club, or work together, or go to the same school, or have mutual friends. 
So what can we do? 

We can learn not to hate them. In fact, embrace them for they are a reminder to aspire to more, be better and make a positive impact in society – or we’ll end up like them. 

Work. Self promotion. Sleep.ย 

I type this with heavy eyelids, I cannot wait to get under the covers. Sleep is one of my favorite pastimes (had you told me this when I was a child, I would have told you to bugger off). Over the last few weeks, I’ve been burning the 11pm oil (my candle burns out by midnight) and rising early to work (on my business proposals). 

In 2016, my focus was on university and my first year as a technology and media candidate attorney. It has been great. I’m glad to note that I have been growing my personal brand as a technology lawyer. 

One year in, and I’ve been published in reputable platforms, including South Africa’s legal journal. I will include the links below as I’m not above self promotion. If you don’t promote yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? 

I have now adjusted to working over and beyond 8 hours (candidate attorney life) while studying full time. This adjustment has confirmed that there is as much time in a day as you choose. 

I have currently been stretching the hours of my allocated 24 hours, at work and on Symbios, my CSI (Corporate Social Investment) consultancy, or implementancy as I like to call it. We’re doers, go-getters, action people and we’re going to manage sustainable projects. 
Exciting times ahead! But first, sleep. 

Oh wait, before bed, here are the links to my articles that I’ve written (and co-written). 
1. Is virtual child porn illegal? http://www.timeslive.co.za/ilive/2016/04/15/Is-virtual-child-porn-illegal 

2. Your private Facebook messages can be used in court against you – even if you were hacked http://www.timeslive.co.za/politics/2016/02/05/Your-private-Facebook-messages-can-be-used-in-court-against-you-even-if-you-were-hacked-iLIVE

3. POPI – Compliance v Defiance http://www.derebus.org.za/popi-compliance-v-defiance/ 

4. Businesses lure Pokรฉmon go players to their doorsteps https://www.businesslive.co.za/bd/opinion/2016-08-11-businesses-lure-pokmon-go-players-to-their-doorsteps/ 

5. Minister Gordhan’s budget speech hints at using big data to give a big beating to corrupt officials https://www.ppmattorneys.co.za/minister-gordhans-budget-speech-hints-using-big-data-give-big-beating-corrupt-officials/

6. SASSA controversy: aspects related to the protection of personal information https://www.ppmattorneys.co.za/sassa-controversy-aspects-related-protection-personal-information/

7. Ben 10s and state ICT procurement- getting it right the first time https://www.ppmattorneys.co.za/ben-10s-state-ict-procurement-getting-right-first-time/

Smile b!tchย 

I love the “New Years” feeling. Cynics will say that a new year will not change your life, and will usually not support New Years resolutions – because we make promises to ourselves and then get lazy or demotivated and we never achieve what we want to, and yet we do it year after year. 

Do we really want our lives to be a series of unaccomplished goals? Do we want to be reminded that we are fickle and unable to commit? 

Not me… looking from afar, I may come across as lazy. In my previous posts, I mentioned that I would be starting a business. Then life happened and I moved to another city to commence legal articles. I turned down a few projects and it looked like I was a failure. Truth is, I prioritized law and learning above the CSR business. I am glad I did. My legal journey in 2016 has been successful. I set goals but life happened and the goal post had changed, so I adapted and studied further while working my ass off, I worked hard and I focused on me as opposed to what others may think of me. Needless to say, I smashed those goals. 

New goals!! 

I love goals. What better way to get amped for the year ahead, than by setting goals to accomplish? And if something gets in your way (maybe your university also tells you that they’ve changed your course requirements and you can’t graduate until you’ve completed 9 more subjects) – you adapt, and you get on with it. Sulk, throw a tantrum and then focus. Struggles and hardships are character building. 

So… my 2017 resolutions are as follows; 

1. Smile more (in photos) – I look like a dork so I avoid smiling for photos 

2. Pass my board exams – 3 more to go! 

3. Drink 1-2L of water a day 

4. Start mountain biking regularly – fun way to get fit and explore 

5. Go to gym 3-4 times a week, before work if possible. 

6. Come home (to Durban) as often as I can 

7. Make time to connect with friends and family. 

Once established, I then break them up into monthly goals which makes it easier to track my progress. 
See smiles below, goal 1 – progress โœ… 

Festive feasting: Book Binge

I’ve been starved, and now I’m devouring novel after novel ๐Ÿ˜

2016’s backside is slowly moving out of sight and I’m ashamed to say that I haven’t read many novels. In my defensive, 2016 has been a difficult but rewarding year. As my first year of articles of clerkship, I’ve read. Thousands of pages – for work, there’s a lot of words in the legal profession. I’ve also written 10 examinations while working full time. So between perusing legal documents and studying, this chicka has been starved of good, thrilling books. 

However, I’ve redeemed myself this festive season and I’ve been through 5 novels in two weeks. I didn’t rush, I savoured every word (and stayed up all night some nights). They were fantastic and worth a recommendation. So if you’re craving a book that is easy to read and fast-paced, consider the following books: 

1. Irene, Alex and Camille by Pierre Lemaitre – death, lies and intrigue. These books, especially Alex, were so unpredictable! 

2. The girl with all the gifts by M R Carey – a zombie thriller like no other, maybe the best one I’ve read albeit the last zombie book I’ve read was Goosebumps. 

3. The couple next door by Shari Lapeรฑa – a husband fornicating with the neighbour, a baby stolen from its crib, an emotionally volatile woman…what could go wrong, right?  I couldn’t get enough of this book. 

Credit must be given to my delicious boyfriend who purchased & recommended the books to me! Xoxo

Weeping weekend

I’ve neglected this blog. Not because I’ve lost interest, I’ve just been very busy with life in a new city – I’ve been in Johannesburg for 7 months, is that still new? 
Work, life and love have consumed my life and I cannot remember the last time I had time to myself to write or read other blogs. 
Today time stands still, I don’t care about having time to work or fulfill other obligations and commitments. 
This weekend I lost a family member. My dog, Macy. She’s been in my life for 15 years. That is more than half my life and I’m taking this time to reflect and grieve. 
I have never weeped like I’ve weeped this weekend. 
On Saturday morning, 16 July 2016, I arrived in Durban. Two hours later, Macy was unable to move or walk. I sat with her for an hour and a half, not wanting to move her as she’s old and fragile. I wanted her to get her strength back and I’d sit with her until she did. She looked at me with her sad brown eyes and moaned. It was the most heart wrenching noise and I knew something was not right…. 
I had to say my goodbyes to her at the vet. I cried and cried and cried and then I kissed her and put my head on her little body and cried more. 
Honestly, on the way to the vet, I thought she’d come back home with me. 
I know she was old and her time was coming but I never expected it. 

My mom says she waited for me to come back to Durban so I could say goodbye. That’s sentimental bullshit but I believe it. 

5 May 2001 – 16 July 2016 

RIP my sweet, sweet girl. 


Dogs are family. 
Dogs are blessings. 

 

Endings and Beginnings

It has been a while since I’ve blogged. It’s 2016 and the new year brings a new adventure – quite literally, I am not talking mumbo jumbo new year nonsense, this is a HUGE year for me.

I am making some changes in my life, I have been in a long distance relationship with the most amazing man for a year now, but I just can’t do it anymore. It is emotionally taxing at times and a simple embrace or a face to face conversation between lovers is a luxury that I cannot have at a whim… Perhaps I am too fussy but after a year, I have had it! So I am ending it. Just. like. that.

So my long distance relationship ends and my new adventure begins….

I will be living in a new city later this week and kicking off my legal career the following week so I am definitely packing my big girl panties.

The most daunting aspect of moving to a new city is living by myself – no mom or dad to cook for me or wake me up before the alarm or save me from flying cockroaches……….. terrifying thought but even cockroaches cannot dampen my spirits. I am beyond excited, and my jaw is sore from the wide smile that dominates my face.

I am positively beaming and the new job and new-found independence is not the only reason for my delight. The termination of my long distance relationship is a result of the decision to move to my boyfriend’s city! I was lucky enough to get into my dream law firm which has an office in his city. MEGA WIN.